Counseling doesn’t always work. Every counselor has heard the stories: clients lamenting previous counseling relationships that were frustrating, disappointing, and ineffectual. We hear the stories and we hope our clients won’t be telling...
Admit it; you’re biased! Maybe you’ve learned that as a counselor you’re not supposed to have biases, but that’s just not possible. If you’re alive, you’re biased. Since you’re going to be biased anyway,...
Feeling uncomfortable can be an integral part of healing, growth, and liberation! In our work on ourselves, and in our work with the people we counsel, when someone starts to get uncomfortable, you know something important is happening. The discomfort...
When someone is hurting or struggling and they want your help, your impulse may be to go for the quick fix, to offer up some advice or to try to solve their problem. It’s natural to want to fix what’s wrong, to make it feel better, to...
Counseling is an unusual kind of relationship. Though it shouldn’t be, it’s rare for people to develop relationships that are dedicated to their healing, their growth, and their liberation. Such change-promoting relationships have their...
You are not the person you once were. Before long, you will no longer be the person you are now.
It all starts with being born. After that, it’s just one change after another, and there’s nothing you can do to stop it. It’s...
