You want one thing. Your partner wants another. Do you need to compromise, so neither of you really gets what you want? Does one person need to sacrifice, perhaps at the cost of resenting the other? Is there any way for both of you to win?
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If you want a fulfilling life, you need fulfilling relationships. But what makes a relationship fulfilling? In a word, intimacy. Intimacy is the experience of feeling genuinely connected instead of separate, sensing that you and someone else are a...
How do you decide if you want to have sex with someone? Presumably you would choose someone you’re attracted to in some compelling way. Mutual interest on their part also seems to be a key ingredient. Once you’ve got those basics established,...
Just because you have friends, doesn’t mean you know how to make friends. There is an art to making friends, and not everyone learns it. Fortunately, even if you never learn the art, you can wind up with friends anyway. There are some disadvantages,...
Here’s what’s great about getting rejected! Many of life’s most desirable experiences and meaningful relationships come from asking for what you want. If you’re too afraid of getting rejected, you won’t ask for what you...
I’ve seen you. You always want to connect with people, but you’re not always sure how to do it. Sometimes it just happens. You find that, somehow, one of you has invited the other to play. Without being serious, without anyone trying too...
We come to understand the experiences we have, even as we’re having them, through the stories we tell about them. Stories help us make meaning of what’s happening. We are made of stories.
Life is an ongoing choose-your-own-adventure...
Relationships have a natural life cycle: a beginning, a middle, and an end. Along the way, they pass through a series of stages. Some relationships make it to the next stage; some don’t. If they last long enough, someone eventually leaves the...
I’m really only writing this text introduction to get you to click play on the video below. My goal is to capture your interest enough that you’ll watch the video, but without giving away so much of the content that the video will seem...
There is more than one kind of friendship. The standard model of friendship consists of sharing interests and doing things together, enjoying companionship and caring about each other and providing support. When they first invented friendship, this...
