Deconditioning

Depression, Anxiety, and the Mismanagement of Aliveness

The armies of the anxious, and the droves of the depressed, continue to swell in number. Their members yearn to unlock the mysteries of anxiety and depression, but the keys are lost. We’ve searched for them in every corner of … Continue reading

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Decolonize Your Mind

Your thoughts are not your own. Many of your most private, most personal thoughts are not actually yours at all. Think about it: you are no more the creator of your mind than you are of your body. Though you … Continue reading

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How to Live to 300

No one knows how long they’re going to live for. Nonetheless, when I ask almost anyone what age they think they’re going to live to, they give me a number. We act as if we’re going to live to 65, … Continue reading

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Why Men Are So Obsessed With Sex

(Originally published in K. Kay, J. Nagle & B. Gould (Eds.) Male lust: Pleasure, power, and transformation (pp. 215-222). New York: Harrington Park Press, 2000.) Have you ever encountered a baby whose gender is unknown to you? Not knowing can … Continue reading

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Follow the Absurd

Some things about you set you apart. There are ways you don’t fit in, beliefs and behaviors of yours that are outrageous, ways the world is that have never made sense to you. If you pay attention to these parts, … Continue reading

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5 Ways to Make Your Life More Like Burning Man

(co-posted with Burner Love) So you’ve been to the playa, and you’ve seen the promised land – the promise of freedom, of self-expression, of immediacy and creativity and community. The playa fed you, and it changed you. It provided you … Continue reading

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Living an Off-Trail Life

Do you live your life on-trail, or off-trail? Trails, roads, and paths make it easier to get from place to place, but only if you want to limit the places you go to the places the trail goes. To gain … Continue reading

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Unconditional Beauty

You are beautiful. You are already completely beautiful. There’s nothing that needs to change about your appearance or your body for you to be just right. This is the nature of unconditional beauty. We have been brainwashed into believing that … Continue reading

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How To Be Attractive

You are more attractive than you think you are! All of us could use to rethink just what “attractive” means. Did you grow up learning that some people are just attractive and others just aren’t? That’s the first idea that … Continue reading

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