Deconditioning

Decolonize Your Mind

Your thoughts are not your own. Many of your most private, most personal thoughts are not actually yours at all. Think about it: you are no more the creator of your mind than you are of your body. Though you … Continue reading

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Why Men Are So Obsessed With Sex

(Originally published in K. Kay, J. Nagle & B. Gould (Eds.) Male lust: Pleasure, power, and transformation (pp. 215-222). New York: Harrington Park Press, 2000.) Have you ever encountered a baby whose gender is unknown to you? Not knowing can … Continue reading

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5 Ways to Make Your Life More Like Burning Man

(co-posted with Burner Love) So you’ve been to the playa, and you’ve seen the promised land – the promise of freedom, of self-expression, of immediacy and creativity and community. The playa fed you, and it changed you. It provided you … Continue reading

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Living an Off-Trail Life

Do you live your life on-trail, or off-trail? Trails, roads, and paths make it easier to get from place to place, but only if you want to limit the places you go to the places the trail goes. To gain … Continue reading

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Unconditional Beauty

You are beautiful. You are already completely beautiful. There’s nothing that needs to change about your appearance or your body for you to be just right. This is the nature of unconditional beauty. We have been brainwashed into believing that … Continue reading

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