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How To Make Friends With Anyone

Just because you have friends, doesn’t mean you know how to make friends. There is an art to making friends, and not everyone learns it. Fortunately, even if you never learn the art, you can wind up with friends anyway. … Continue reading

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Getting Good at Getting Rejected

Here’s what’s great about getting rejected! Many of life’s most desirable experiences and meaningful relationships come from asking for what you want. If you’re too afraid of getting rejected, you won’t ask for what you want. If you don’t ask, … Continue reading

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Why Your Huge Breakthroughs Don’t Stick

I really do share your excitement about the huge breakthrough you just had. Something new and exciting has clearly happened for you, and I’m in full support of the change! Why, then, you ask, do I not seem as excited … Continue reading

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How to Flirt (with everything)

I’ve seen you. You always want to connect with people, but you’re not always sure how to do it. Sometimes it just happens. You find that, somehow, one of you has invited the other to play. Without being serious, without … Continue reading

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The Grief Cheatsheet: 6 Essential Reminders About How to Grieve

Grieving is our natural response when someone dies. In cultural communities where crying is discouraged and endings are not always properly honored, we have had to rediscover for ourselves how to fully and honestly grieve. The inspiring response of my … Continue reading

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5 Ways to Maximize Personal Growth at Burning Man

(reposted from Burner Love) – Check out the list of Steve’s workshops at Burning Man 2014 Ordinary reality is not designed with personal growth in mind. If you like conformity, competition, or pretense, then ordinary reality is a great place … Continue reading

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How To Be Biased

Admit it; you’re biased! Maybe you’ve learned that as a counselor you’re not supposed to have biases, but that’s just not possible. If you’re alive, you’re biased. Since you’re going to be biased anyway, you might as well choose how … Continue reading

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How To Be Attractive

You are more attractive than you think you are! All of us could use to rethink just what “attractive” means. Did you grow up learning that some people are just attractive and others just aren’t? That’s the first idea that … Continue reading

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How to Sleep

Once upon a time, on the nights when my wife had trouble sleeping, she would close her eyes, lie on her back, and say, “teach me how to sleep.” In my best lulling voice, I would give her these basic … Continue reading

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