Just because you have friends, doesn’t mean you know how to make friends. There is an art to making friends, and not everyone learns it. Fortunately, even if you never learn the art, you can wind up with friends anyway. There are some disadvantages,...
Here’s what’s great about getting rejected! Many of life’s most desirable experiences and meaningful relationships come from asking for what you want. If you’re too afraid of getting rejected, you won’t ask for what you...
I really do share your excitement about the huge breakthrough you just had. Something new and exciting has clearly happened for you, and I’m in full support of the change! Why, then, you ask, do I not seem as excited as you do? Well, I wonder...
I’ve seen you. You always want to connect with people, but you’re not always sure how to do it. Sometimes it just happens. You find that, somehow, one of you has invited the other to play. Without being serious, without anyone trying too...
Grieving is our natural response when someone dies. In cultural communities where crying is discouraged and endings are not always properly honored, we have had to rediscover for ourselves how to fully and honestly grieve. The inspiring response of...
Ordinary reality is not designed with personal growth in mind. If you like conformity, competition, or pretense, then...
Admit it; you’re biased! Maybe you’ve learned that as a counselor you’re not supposed to have biases, but that’s just not possible. If you’re alive, you’re biased. Since you’re going to be biased anyway,...
You are more attractive than you think you are! All of us could use to rethink just what “attractive” means. Did you grow up learning that some people are just attractive and others just aren’t? That’s the first idea that...
Once upon a time, on the nights when my wife had trouble sleeping, she would close her eyes, lie on her back, and say, “teach me how to sleep.” In my best lulling voice, I would give her these basic instructions:
“Close your eyes, and...
