Do you want to get stuck in life, carry chronic stress, or remain in persistent conflicts?. If so, here’s what to do. Oversimplify things, failing to see the subtleties and complexities. Then, to compensate for your oversimplified view of the...
Just because you have friends, doesn’t mean you know how to make friends. There is an art to making friends, and not everyone learns it. Fortunately, even if you never learn the art, you can wind up with friends anyway. There are some disadvantages,...
Here’s what’s great about getting rejected! Many of life’s most desirable experiences and meaningful relationships come from asking for what you want. If you’re too afraid of getting rejected, you won’t ask for what you...
I’ve seen you. You always want to connect with people, but you’re not always sure how to do it. Sometimes it just happens. You find that, somehow, one of you has invited the other to play. Without being serious, without anyone trying too...
How’s your strength of will? Without a healthy will, challenges may be impossible to overcome, getting the motivation to start anything new is difficult, and momentum never seems to build.
Will is a developmental resource, and like all...
How much of your time do you spend in your body, and how much in your head? In our current cultural climate, it’s easy to live a life of the mind and leave your body behind. Losing your body, however, is just as bad as losing your mind, negatively...
What are the things that you do every day, over and over again? Do the things you repeat contribute to you becoming the person you most wish to be? The fabric of your life is composed of these repetitions. Out of what materials are you weaving that...
If you are committed to ongoing growth and development, you will want to keep developing your capacity to witness. Witnessing makes you capable of many things that are otherwise impossible, but more importantly, it allows your self-knowledge and self-awareness...
Feeling uncomfortable can be an integral part of healing, growth, and liberation! In our work on ourselves, and in our work with the people we counsel, when someone starts to get uncomfortable, you know something important is happening. The discomfort...
Once upon a time, on the nights when my wife had trouble sleeping, she would close her eyes, lie on her back, and say, “teach me how to sleep.” In my best lulling voice, I would give her these basic instructions:
“Close your eyes, and...
