Have you ever been in an argument with someone you care about, wishing you could get out but not knowing how? Maybe you were listening to yourself talk, sure that every word coming out of your mouth was just making it worse, but you couldn't stop yourself. Don't give up hope. There's a way out for you, and for all of us. You just have to be willing to lose.
As soon as anyone wins an argument, everyone loses. Really, the whole paradigm of winning and losing, of right and wrong, blame and responsibility, is what gets us into these messes in the first place. Letting yourself lose is the first step outside that old paradigm.
Do you want relationships that are more collaborative? Do you wish you could stop having to defend and protect yourself? Do you want the people you care about to feel gotten and supported? Do you want everyone to be on your side? Come spend the evening losing with the rest of us. When there's nothing left to lose, there's so much to gain!