States, Stages, and Peak Experiences

Some experiences, no matter how beautiful, novel, or exciting, are still just experiences. They are to be enjoyed for their own sake, and once they pass, they remain primarily as beautiful, novel, or exciting memories.

Other experiences change you. They give you a glimpse of what’s possible, of who you might become at a later stage of your development. Once you’ve had the experience, it keeps pulling you in the direction you wish to grow.

If you are committed to your ongoing growth and development, it serves you to seek out these peak experiences to help you grow. If you are committed to the growth and development of the people around you, you need to go further, not just seeking peak experiences, but helping to create experiences for others that show them what’s possible.


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About the Author

Steve Bearman, Ph.D., earned his doctorate in Psychology from the University of California, Santa Cruz. He founded Interchange Counseling Institute in 2002 and is the lead teacher of Interchange's San Francisco-based year-long counseling and coaching training. When he's not counseling people, leading workshops, and advocating for social justice, Steve climbs mountains, adventures in the urban wilderness, explores the edges and limits of what's possible, deconstructs everything, and finds new ways to put it all back together.