If you want a fulfilling life, you need fulfilling relationships. But what makes a relationship fulfilling? In a word, intimacy. Intimacy is the experience of feeling genuinely connected instead of separate, sensing that you and someone else are a...
Your relationship with desire strongly influences the quality of your life. If you don’t know what you want, how can you be guided toward the things that will fulfill you most? Unless you sense your own desire, how can you know what you...
The armies of the anxious, and the droves of the depressed, continue to swell in number. Their members yearn to unlock the mysteries of anxiety and depression, but the keys are lost. We’ve searched for them in every corner of the paradigm of...
No one wants to feel sorry for themselves. It’s got a pretty bad rap. I mean, who wants to wallow in self-pity, or stay stuck in the victim role, or dwell on the past?
Yet we do feel sorry for ourselves, and for good reason. People wrong...
Your thoughts are not your own. Many of your most private, most personal thoughts are not actually yours at all.
Think about it: you are no more the creator of your mind than you are of your body. Though you can influence your body’s shape...
How do you decide if you want to have sex with someone? Presumably you would choose someone you’re attracted to in some compelling way. Mutual interest on their part also seems to be a key ingredient. Once you’ve got those basics established,...
Just because you have friends, doesn’t mean you know how to make friends. There is an art to making friends, and not everyone learns it. Fortunately, even if you never learn the art, you can wind up with friends anyway. There are some disadvantages,...
Here’s what’s great about getting rejected! Many of life’s most desirable experiences and meaningful relationships come from asking for what you want. If you’re too afraid of getting rejected, you won’t ask for what you...
I’m feeling pretty groovy about myself today. I’ve spent the last week pulling together all of the best stuff I’ve ever written or filmed on topics like jealousy, addiction, enlightenment, friendship, crying, oppression, ethics,...
Counseling doesn’t always work. Every counselor has heard the stories: clients lamenting previous counseling relationships that were frustrating, disappointing, and ineffectual. We hear the stories and we hope our clients won’t be telling...
