How would you like to no longer experience jealousy? Impossible, you say? How can we ever be free of our basic human emotions, you ask?...
You are more attractive than you think you are! All of us could use to rethink just what “attractive” means. Did you grow up learning that some people are just attractive and others just aren’t? That’s the first idea that...
Have you ever been in a relationship that’s ended? My guess is that your answer is yes. If so, congratulations. When relationships complete their natural life cycle, the appropriate thing for them to do is end. Well done.
All relationships...
When someone is hurting or struggling and they want your help, your impulse may be to go for the quick fix, to offer up some advice or to try to solve their problem. It’s natural to want to fix what’s wrong, to make it feel better, to...
How much do you let yourself rest? Is it as much as you need? Because we learn to value ourselves on the basis of our productivity, we tend to get less than the ideal quantity of rest. Much of the rest we do get is not quality rest.
Spend...
Counseling is an unusual kind of relationship. Though it shouldn’t be, it’s rare for people to develop relationships that are dedicated to their healing, their growth, and their liberation. Such change-promoting relationships have their...
Once upon a time, on the nights when my wife had trouble sleeping, she would close her eyes, lie on her back, and say, “teach me how to sleep.” In my best lulling voice, I would give her these basic instructions:
“Close your eyes, and...
Water flowing downhill. Electricity flowing through the neural network in your brain. Your behavior flowing through your social and cultural landscape. All follow the easiest path they can find. Because we always do things the easiest way possible,...
Some experiences, no matter how beautiful, novel, or exciting, are still just experiences. They are to be enjoyed for their own sake, and once they pass, they remain primarily as beautiful, novel, or exciting memories.
Other experiences change...
In ancient times, only society’s elite had access to certain resources. You had to be royalty, or the equivalent, to own a cell phone or participate in higher education. Now that an ever-growing percentage of the population has cell phones and...
